Listening skills

Hearing is the first human on the possession, but the last to leave the life-support capability. The fetus as early as within his mother's womb, who will be able to listen to; however, after a standstill in the heart, brain waves show that are still ringing in our ear. Shows that hearing is the heaven of people a special gift. 

Able to understand the patient's hearing voices, together with an appropriate response; sick mind the plight of / hard knot to release it. Such use of hearing God gift to alleviate the hardship in the way people listen to guitar. Was born hearing, but the use of hearing to help people, certainly in need of some on the listening skills. 

The face of advanced cancer patients, doctors need to know how to take care medicine; nursing home care will need to master the road; and spiritual care who must first know how to fine-preferred to listen, to learn how to manage their own inner feelings, In addition, he will have to know how to bring love to listening skills to enter the patient's heart, the final truth, the ability to respond to the plight of the sick to the release of their distress. 

In other words, listen to the late cancer must include the following four skills: 

Listening carefully to the patient's aspirations to strike a balance between the patient's verbal, emotional and behavior. Different people have different personalities, and their attitude in the face of death threats, and all too often varies from person to person. Therefore, spiritual care need to look closely at the attitude of patients to find out through verbal, emotional and behavior to reveal character, and understand their feelings. Not to be "the heart than the others" to the assumption that the patient's heart; not yet listened to before they made the consolation. 

Management to listen to their own inner emotional  in the time to visit the patient must be totally put aside his own emotions, to listen wholeheartedly. Care should not go in the visitors who will be past their own feelings into the life that, even crying tears. 

Method to follow-up question (verbal following call) into the patient's heart lies  knot in order to respond to the patient's verbal, emotional or behavioral, caring needs to follow up this issue or clarify the patient's semantic view to reaching as far as the patient's knot lies. Follow-up methods include: 


          a. question (furthering) such as: "There are not?", "could speak a little more .." 
          b. Restatement (paraphrasing) such as: "You just talk about things, is not it so?"
          c. in order to "yes" or "no" problem (close-ended question) to clarify the patient's heart; to open-ended questions (open ended question), so that the patient expressed his feelings more. 
          d. timely pull back to the topic, so that patients can focus on the mind. 
          e. With regard to the patients make a summary of the mind in order to understand the patient's mind. 

Ability to the truth, the release of the patient's best knot after a multi-listen, pray for the patients only after the truth to the Bible's teachings, and prayers for the sick. Avoid in patients unable to fully grasp knot circumstances, hastily made to teach, or lightly for superficial visit the end of prayer; because to do so will only make the patient feel caught in a dilemma. 


Is the gift of hearing to listen to is the use of such a gift to the release of the patient's minds. Truly listen to is: Care must be suspended thinking, worry, expectations, judgments and memory; At that moment, the patient devotion inner world, exclusively for the patients live. 

Listen to patients is to first understand, and then only through their sympathy (empathy). Rather than listen to the patients who experienced the same feelings for the immediate response (sympathy). Especially important to note that perhaps the patient's situation will be brought back to our past, the feelings of the past; but we should not go on when their feelings, into the immediate feelings of the patient. Always have to remember that spiritual care should be taken only whole-heartedly for those patients live. 

"First understand the only expression of sympathy" means, it is necessary to timely respond directly (response) the patient's heart knot problem; but not without an attentive listener, Betty Drown touched the hearts to respond (react). Listen to is the use of auditory skills, is the way to comfort people, let us with the hearts of Thanksgiving to use it!