When you know your relatives or friends with cancer, you feel at a loss, but also do not know what to say what to do? You want to help, but we do not know what can be done or how to start? If your relatives or friends of cancer has entered the late heart depressed, frustrated, disappointed, you can do?
You have to become a listen. One listen to the people are not eager to say you want to tell the patient, but is willing to patiently listen to the patients so far that he needs, from where he needs to answer, help him. The following are some of the nature of listening to those who:
The use of open-ended questions, so that patients have the opportunity to express himself. Open-ended questions that were asked were not only very brief question and answer sentences. For example: Do not ask the patient "is not it? Will not? Pain, not pain?" This question is usually only allowed a very brief answer, such as: "yes" or "no." If you ask him "how do you feel today?" In this way, patients can have the opportunity to say something of his own feelings.
To be sensitive, so listen carefully to the words, to clarify your understanding, and induced the expression of innermost feelings of each other. By listening, you can help patients clearly express his position and feelings, and then help him find a reasonable, workable response.
Do not interrupt each other, not to deny each other's feelings or the other thesis. For example: the patient to tell you, "I worry about my condition will deteriorate." Do not you just say, "Do not be afraid." You can ask him, "Why do you think so?" (This is an open question .) Perhaps, he is really worried about is the fear of family or household dragged down the economy, fear of pain, or other concerns.
Do not gossip (especially other people's treatment and response). In good faith, and many relatives and friends will be eager to remedy a variety of cancer methods or introduced to the patients or their family members, or even talk to the other person's response and the results of the treatment of children and left patients. This is not considerate and irresponsible, because on the one hand, patients or their family members will be thinking, on the other hand, the treatment of each patient's choice and the response is unique. Outsiders do not have to tell the patient, he should use what remedy or his condition will be how to develop.
In-depth understanding of the situation have not been before, not to rush to provide an answer. The best way is to assist each other to find his own view that a reasonable answer. Because you have to offer potential benefit to patients, but harmful to him. You may win him the right to independent thinking, even when you do not really provide the answer, you would be complaining.
Respect for cancer patients and their families the rights and privacy. If you feel the need to let others know when the patient's condition, please seek the consent of patients or their families. For example: You would like to ask others to pray for patients, you may seek the views of the patient's consent, and asked him how we want other people to pray for him.
Christians to the patient or family members witness or preach the gospel, we should avoid arguing doctrine. At this point to argue beliefs and teachings, and did not encourage role. Love, care to meet their urgent need is to convey God's love the best, most powerful way.
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